My son has such a tender heart. He has been known to cry at the movie Coraline when he was just 3 years old because he just “loved it so much”. When he found out what hamburgers were, he became visibly distraught and started telling me how cows deserved to roam in the fields and live their life. He draws pictures on the back of his homework with hearts and the word “Mom” above it. He values his friendships so much he often brings his own toys to school to give to them to show his appreciation.
He also loves the color pink. He loves to play dress- up with his sister and pretend he is a princess. Sometimes he puts clips in his hair– hair that he has decided to grow out and with good reason. He has the most amazing, thick red hair you have ever seen. If only we could all be so lucky. His favorite My Little Pony is Pinkie Pie and I cannot tell you how many times I’ve heard the song “Let it Go” because he often pretends he is Elsa. I am told these things make some people uncomfortable. My son is not ashamed of himself in the least but by the way some people talk about him, you would think he ought to be made to feel that way. What’s so funny is that when my daughter, who tends to lean more towards “tomboyish” habits, roughhouses or wears a cowboy hat, she gets praised or complimented for her behavior. It’s “adorable”. Can we please stop placing our children in boxes? They are individuals with unique personalities and just because he is a male doesn’t mean he will automatically like trucks and guns. You are stifling your child when you force them to play with “toys for girls” or “toys for boys”. Here’s a thought: Let them pick out their own toys! Whatever suits their fancy. My son happens to prefer My Little Pony and fake jewelry. It makes him happy so why would I want to step on that? It is harmful to our children to place them in such constrictive boxes in which a girl must be pretty in pink, dainty and not too smart and boys must be rough, tough and never cry. This is what we are teaching our children and we are essentially limiting them from all that they are truly capable of being.
I’ve been told there’s a chance he will be bullied if I don’t protect him. I think if I am not 100% in his corner, then I will be the bully. Why should we focus on HIM getting bullied and not the BULLY? The bully is the one who needs to be corrected, not my son. Let’s work on making those changes happen and teaching our children that their peers can be as different as the colors of the rainbow and that’s part of why life is so beautiful.